Why You Shouldn't Feel Bad When People Leave Your Life
Are you currently going through a time in your life where it feels like you're all alone?
Do you feel like every connection that you try to make is just failing?
Does it feel like all of the people who have been there with you from day one have just abandoned you?
Then read this blog post and see why it's not necessarily a bad thing that people leave your life because you may be on the brink of a great transformation like a caterpillar to a butterfly!
Let’s talk about something that I’ve been thinking about lately as it applies to my own life. I’m gonna call it the butterfly effect, even though it should probably be called the cocoon effect. It goes a little something like this
When it’s time for you to level up, people may fall away from you and leave your life.
Oooooooh that sounds a little bit overwhelming right?
Especially since these people are generally the ones that are close to us including:
Many of these people have been with us throughout our lives, especially through times of deep change. Losing these people, or seemingly losing these people, can seem quite scary, but it doesn't have to be especially when we understand what is in front of us.
I think a lot of us get too salty when our “day ones” or our “ride or dies” aren’t with us for the most significant transformations in our lives.
Sure you’d like for those people to witness the growth in real time, but that simply can’t be the case for bigly changes. Sometimes you have to be by yourself for yyyhhhuuuuuuge changes.
And that's ok.
The perfect example of this is the caterpillar going to the butterfly.
Nobody gets inside of the cocoon with the caterpillar. It’s just the caterpillar and an internal knowing that alone for now is the way to bloom. I think we’re too quick to look at people leaving us as a bad thing.
We grow much faster without distractions.
And let’s face it, dealing with other people is a distraction. It can be a good one or a bad one. When you’re trying to grow bigly though, sometimes solitude is needed because some people simply can’t help you get to the next level.
Their presence stunts your growth as a result.
Another thing that I would like to point out is that just because people leave, it also doesn’t mean that people are disloyal to you. In my mind, it means that the universe is calling for you to manifest a transformation so great, that only you can feel and witness it. Let’s talk movies for a bit. Specifically Iron Man 2.
When tony has to figure out a replacement to the palladium core for the arc reactor, he’s left by himself.
The only thing that he has is the old tapes of his dad and the diorama of Tomorrow World. Imagine if Pepper had been there. Or Rhodes. How distracted would he have been?
How much focus and dedication does it take to create something as drastic as a brand new element?
Imagine if anyone else was in his workshop constantly as he’s building the particle accelerator.
Huge distraction and liability.
Tony needed every ounce of focus to create.
And sometimes that’s what you need to take your next big leap. I say all of this to say that in times of great transformation in your life, being alone is necessary and sometimes the universe will force it on you if you’re being stubborn.
Let it be.
Don’t feel any kind of way about who leaves because when you level up, they may find their way back.